My love of working as a therapist, helping people shift perspective and grow as individuals and within relationships stems from my insatiable fascination with and curiosity about the human condition. I grew up in a family that focused on education and asked a lot of questions. My father was a Rabbi, and through reading the Talmud I was taught to analyze information – to pull texts and ideas apart strand by strand and look for deeper messages and meaning. As an adult and therapist, I learned that this practice lends itself so much to psychotherapy. By asking ourselves meaningful questions and maintaining a curiosity, we’re able to access the infinite knowledge, guidance and calm center that are within each of us. Through a compassionate and trusting therapeutic relationship and a willingness to let go of the judgment and ego that are so present in our culture, each of us has the ability to find more curiosity, excitement, balance and meaning in life.
I chose the specialties of my practice thoughtfully, although I was instinctively drawn to focusing on the issues that affect so many within our community, country and the world. I also realized that people don’t need to feel as though they have glaring issues to benefit from therapy. Life is dynamic. We’re constantly moving from one major life transition to another – all while trying to navigate relationships with others, feelings about ourselves, the big and small losses and traumas that people experience every day and the vacillating and often complicated thoughts and emotions that arise through experience. Most of us are struggling with something. Everyone carries with them some level of pain, whether it manifests through anxiety, grief, depression or the stresses that come with transitions and challenging relationships.
Distressing experiences, especially those that lead to aliments like post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), can affect our ability to function well and enjoy life. Traumas are so prevalent in our society, and each person internalizes trauma differently. It’s our perspective and self-resiliency that determine how we’ll manage trauma symptoms and other painful thoughts, emotions and body sensations. This is how increased self-awareness and the confidence that a trusting and a safe place resides within yourself can provide not only relief, but also elicit a wonderful curiosity. By replacing judgment with inquisitiveness and openness, deep healing and meaningful change can occur.
If you’re struggling with stress, pain or misdirection, I can help you learn to pay attention to the healing and supportive spaces within yourself that most people ignore or don’t notice. When you learn to focus on the place that comes before words, you can gain clarity about what’s causing you to feel stuck or unhappy. You can learn how to truly communicate with and better understand yourself. You can access the natural healing that resides within.
Learning to access this internal, healing space and expand my natural curiosity has helped me not only better understand myself and live a joyful life, but also to help guide my clients toward fulfillment. I bring warmth, compassion, patience, sensitivity and a touch of humor into every session. I firmly believe in the healing and growth that can occur within the therapeutic relationship. I also believe in your ability to find curiosity, contentment and confidence within yourself.
While I love and am dedicated to my work, I also recognize the importance of engaging with life in other satisfying and powerful ways. I love to sing and laugh. I’m open to new experiences and cherish all the world has to offer through reading, travel, conversation and quiet contemplation. I also love traditions, baking with children and spending time with dogs. Dogs can teach us a lot. They play when it’s time to play and rest when it’s time to rest. They’re sweet, embrace life with abandon and just exude love.
If you’re ready to feel something different – to shift your perspective and tap into the strength, beauty and healing that resides within – I offer a free consultation first session, only to be paid if we decide to work together.
Rutie Havazelet, LCSW received her BA in Education from Queens College; MA in Special Education from the University of Virginia; MSW from Yeshiva University; Certificate in Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy from the Psychoanalytic Training Institute, New York Counseling and Guidance Services; and completed a Post-Graduate Training Program in Focusing Oriented Relational Psychotherapy. Rutie has served as an Advocate Coordinator in the Sexual Assault Treatment Program at all three Bronx Hospitals, as well as a Workshop Facilitator at Mercy Corps, giving presentations around the city to promote awareness and educate about the signs and symptoms of trauma. In addition her private practice established in 2002, Rutie currently also facilitates a supervision group for practicing therapists and social workers, and is teaching the 2nd year of a 2-year, 4-semseter Post-Graduate Training Program at the Focusing Oriented Relational Psychotherapy (Forp), where she received certification in 2009. Rutie is a member of the NY State Society for Clinical Social Work and The Focusing Institute.